Why Can't Successful Black women find a good black man?
Miscommunication Between Black men and Women
Article Summary:Chapman addresses social changes,and statistical reasons to explain why African American men and women have a hard time sustaining healthy and productive relationships and/or marriages. Chapman explores internalized stereotypes that plague the black community along with the unbalanced ratio of African American men to women,socioeconomic differences between black men and women and interracial marriage all to determine the root of declining marriageability in the black community. She goes on to introduce a term called “mansharing,” which is a result of the decline in qualified black males as dating partners. In conclusion she presents collective ways for African Americans to come together on this issue as well as presents what consequences may present themselves as a result of the issue in the future. Chapman encourages Blacks to join together and take some risks to have successful relationships to benefit future generations to come.
4.Hammond: Being a man about it
Article Summary:Chapman addresses social changes,and statistical reasons to explain why African American men and women have a hard time sustaining healthy and productive relationships and/or marriages. Chapman explores internalized stereotypes that plague the black community along with the unbalanced ratio of African American men to women,socioeconomic differences between black men and women and interracial marriage all to determine the root of declining marriageability in the black community. She goes on to introduce a term called “mansharing,” which is a result of the decline in qualified black males as dating partners. In conclusion she presents collective ways for African Americans to come together on this issue as well as presents what consequences may present themselves as a result of the issue in the future. Chapman encourages Blacks to join together and take some risks to have successful relationships to benefit future generations to come.
1. Chapman solutions:
I feel that three solutions to addressing these challenges are discrediting stereotypes within the black community through educating and counseling.I believe with the help of the community if more resources could be put in the black community more people could have access to the truth.Secondly I feel the black community needs to take more advantage of networks like BET and TV One in order to generate positive images and ideas about the black community. I feel that they should not air any shows that do promote stereotypes within the society about Black Americans. Lastly I feel that most importantly a solution can begin with each person as an individual. Individually if we educate ourselves and the people around us a choose to reprogram ourselves social changes can come about.
I feel that three solutions to addressing these challenges are discrediting stereotypes within the black community through educating and counseling.I believe with the help of the community if more resources could be put in the black community more people could have access to the truth.Secondly I feel the black community needs to take more advantage of networks like BET and TV One in order to generate positive images and ideas about the black community. I feel that they should not air any shows that do promote stereotypes within the society about Black Americans. Lastly I feel that most importantly a solution can begin with each person as an individual. Individually if we educate ourselves and the people around us a choose to reprogram ourselves social changes can come about.
3.Bethea Article:counseling perspective
A) Stereotypes about black men and women have effected their attitudes and views towards one another. The "domineering" and overly independent black woman and the unrealiable and absentee black male have been programmed in the minds of society today. The dominant worldview of what a man should be has been held over the head of many African American men. Stereotypes have kept the black community in an ongoing fight within their personal relationships as everyone has continuously pointed the finger at one another.Instead of overcoming these stereotypes that have been established much of the African American community has internalized them within themselves putting a wedge between black men and women.
B) The three areas that need to be addressed in order to have effective counseling within the black community are
1.Recognize African American women are a heterogeneous group.
Age and socioeconomic status may alter views on how they see relationships. This idea goes back to address standards. Most African American women look for a partner who is equal or higher than in regards to socioeconomic status. Counselors need to see each black women as an individual and not as one representing the whole. Their are varying degrees of what Black women regard as an ideal lifestyle.
2.Assess readiness to serve African American Women.
Counselors have to research and learn distinctly about black women. Many people try and use the standard based upon the societal norms and fail to realize that Black women have a psychology of their own. Counselors need awareness of the history behind black women in order to be sensitive and elective within their findings.
3.More research on African American women and ultimately integrating this with research on African American men.
While researching black women and men attempts to understand where the lack of communication and impacts of stereotypes can be better understood.
I feel that each one of these approaches are definitely needed along with more Black individuals within the psychology and counseling world. The emergence of black psychology is still fairly new and growing and along with that we need more Black people to become involved. I do feel that no better than a black person to understand the underlying struggles of another black person. As people begin to research the roots of the black community from a more Africentric standpoint I feel solutions to these relational barriers will begin emerge at a quicker rate.
3.Anti-Intimacy:
My body is not my own: This relates back to the legacy of slavery because the body was treated as property of another individual. Their was no power or control over ones own body.
No matter what I do, it wont make a difference: With institutionalized slavery it was hard to get ahead. Policies and stereotypes injected into society kept the overwhelming burdens of slavery intact continuing after slavery was "abolished."
B) The three areas that need to be addressed in order to have effective counseling within the black community are
1.Recognize African American women are a heterogeneous group.
Age and socioeconomic status may alter views on how they see relationships. This idea goes back to address standards. Most African American women look for a partner who is equal or higher than in regards to socioeconomic status. Counselors need to see each black women as an individual and not as one representing the whole. Their are varying degrees of what Black women regard as an ideal lifestyle.
2.Assess readiness to serve African American Women.
Counselors have to research and learn distinctly about black women. Many people try and use the standard based upon the societal norms and fail to realize that Black women have a psychology of their own. Counselors need awareness of the history behind black women in order to be sensitive and elective within their findings.
3.More research on African American women and ultimately integrating this with research on African American men.
While researching black women and men attempts to understand where the lack of communication and impacts of stereotypes can be better understood.
I feel that each one of these approaches are definitely needed along with more Black individuals within the psychology and counseling world. The emergence of black psychology is still fairly new and growing and along with that we need more Black people to become involved. I do feel that no better than a black person to understand the underlying struggles of another black person. As people begin to research the roots of the black community from a more Africentric standpoint I feel solutions to these relational barriers will begin emerge at a quicker rate.
3.Anti-Intimacy:
My body is not my own: This relates back to the legacy of slavery because the body was treated as property of another individual. Their was no power or control over ones own body.
No matter what I do, it wont make a difference: With institutionalized slavery it was hard to get ahead. Policies and stereotypes injected into society kept the overwhelming burdens of slavery intact continuing after slavery was "abolished."
A) four distinct ways men defined Manhood in the article were Manhood as an interconnected state of being,fluid development process, redemptive process, and a proactive course.
B) The top two themes describing manhood that came from the study were Responsibility-accountability and Autonomy.
Honestly it was a surprise to me to see how manhood for the African American male is related more towards the relational side and based more on how they interact within their everyday relationships. I was expecting to hear several responses that refer to each man as an individual not including others as much as what was projected from the study. However it is a relief to see that above everything African American men hold the views of those they love to a high standard which is a very positive outlook and hope for African American marriages and relationships.
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